I'm Not Perfect Either!

Cameron says that perfectionism has nothing to do with getting it right, nothing to do with fixing things and nothing to do with standards. It’s a loop that causes us to get stuck in the details. I used to have the case of perfectionism really badly. I wanted my hair to be prefect from the time I took my scarf off until the time I got back in the house at night. I wanted perfect grades, I wanted a perfect life. But there were a few small things that prevented these things from happening. I realized that having perfect grades didn’t come easy, especially in college. Courses are a lot tougher than they were in high school and accuracy, organization, and a lot of effort are needed to obtain even the highest B. I could no longer skim my notes before a test and expect to earn the grade of an A. I had to plan to earn an A, prepare for it and then put forth a ton of effort to achieve my goal. I also had to learn to that there were something’s that I just weren’t going to understand in my subjects but that was okay because it’s not the end of the world. I used to want the perfect life, or I should say the perfect family. After 17 birthdays passed by and I realized that my biological father was not coming back I had to embrace and accept that. Maybe I didn’t have a mother and father who were together but at least I had a grandmother, grandfather, uncle, and mother/sister. It was then I realized that perfection doesn’t entitle someone to happiness. My friends with both parents in their lives were far from perfect. Their fathers were the cause of a lot of their pain emotionally and physically. I had to accept what I had and learn to be happy. If I didn't have to do it perfectly, I would try to do enough to please myself and not everybody else. A common cause of perfectionism is trying to please everyone else and not realizing when you are content with yourself. I say this because there was a time when I lived to hear a compliment from others to feel good about myself, I need someone’s seal of approval. Beyonce-Listen